Customs are useful as points of reference when a way of life is placed under scrutiny,
Allowing customs and traditions to create confusion in daily dealings is similar to letting a tail wag a dog.
Keeping in touch with personal feelings is a more reliable way to go.
Does it really matter that someone brought up in a different culture to you might solve a problem in a similar way?
Energy expended on agonising about doing the ‘right thing’ is often wasted.